IS BODY COUNT ESSENTIAL?

My body, My rules!

Well it’s been a while and I have to admit that, I’m not one that goes around telling people what I’ve been going through and all of that but yes I was going through some life heck but nevermind that, I’m back again with the juiciest scoop. You all know I don’t play when it comes to these thing’s.

Right, before I even start here’s a question: Girls, am I the only one who feels like being asked how many peeps I’ve slept with is a bit off? Like literally, a guy can choose if he wants to be with me because of my body count and it’s insane as most guys wouldn’t be having girlfriends or married if we really going on with this body count thingy. One thing about me? I don’t let such things go one way, if body count matters that much why doesn’t it matter in both genders?🤷🏾‍♀️

For those who haven’t really interacted with this word “ body count “ well let me jot it down for you. Body count refers to how many people someone has slept with.

Questioning one’s body count

 

Generally speaking, this refers to sexual intercourse, and does not include other types of sexual activities. I don’t know about you but there have been countless times I’ve been asked or told these things relating to my body count. 

“What’s your body count?”

“On the count of three lets both say our body count.” 

“If you have a higher body count than 10 that will make me less attracted to you.” 

Body count is the colloquial term for the amount of people you have had sex with. Questioning someone’s body count may seem harmless but it can be very unsettling and disrespectful to be asked such private information. So, if you too have been asked by someone what your body count is, and immediately felt uncomfortable, I am here to tell you: you are not alone. It has been happening to countless people countless times. 

Giving your body its own rules

How are you going ask someone if they’ve been respecting their body when you haven’t? 70% of people who ask such questions are the one’s with the highest body count as the stats recorded. But only google helped me with the term “body count” but a quick google search didn’t help me feel better. The first headline was a reddit forum that was a justification for why men have the right to judge women on her body count and that wasn’t my style, where is the equity in that? . The reddit post was littered with possessive and misogynistic language. I then looked at the Google-generated response to the question of what is an acceptable body count for a woman. 

Question: What is an acceptable body count for a woman? 

The Answer: “The average number of sexual partners in general, is anywhere between 4 and 8”

No. No. No.

The stats doesn’t define me

Average numbers are obviously supposed to be objective data. But if I was Googling this question in hopes of feeling justified for sexual pursuits, I wouldn’t feel very good.

The acceptable body count for a woman is literally any number! If you are practicing safe sex you should be able to do it with anyone you want to! It’s honestly funny how the objectives are only used on women, what about men? They should sleep around with whomever? Mmmmmmmh. If I were to even ask how many girls have been any question regarding their body count, most of them felt disrespected. There comes a period in any new relationship when you and your partner discuss the past and make plans for the future, especially when things are getting really serious and commitment is starting to feel genuine.

At this point, having dialogues about money is just as crucial as having conversations about one's sexuality. However, the body count inquiry is not essential out of all the sexy things you can ask your bae/boo. Most of the time, guys can't even handle the reality, especially if the babe in question has thoroughly explored her sêxuality before meeting them. This, in my opinion, puts the stability of your relationship at jeopardy. Men's body counts are not policed by women. The question is unnecessary.

I can be bad all by myself 

Like you weren’t in my life and now you are here and you want to know if I haven’t been going around like you have been?  Really!? 

I am here to tell you to stop worrying about how many people you have slept with. If someone is judging you for your “number,” then they are probably insecure about themselves (a sure sign you are dating a fuck boy). It’s time to end the gendered and outdated debate still going today that women need to be virgin-like until they are married — and if they aren’t, they are “sluts” — while men are rewarded for the amount of partners they’ve “conquered” with a high five and a beer.

Long story, short!

Long story short, women and men are unequally treated with regard to how many people they have sex with. I will be the first to say that this toxic way of thinking about intercourse infiltrated how I viewed sex. I was concerned that my “number” was too high and that men wouldn’t want to be with me because of it. And whenever you get a chance when a man ask you about your body count? Lie!

When it comes to body count, I feel like men should just accept that women have sex a lot and forget about it. I wonder where people get that narrative that women only have sex like twice a year and only when they are deeply in love. Also, sex can happen very quickly and randomly hey so that body count she tells you is probably excluding all those wild stories that are wilder than your stories and you will never hear those stories trust me. I actually think about that every time I have a wild experience myself, I look at the gent and think "damn, someone probably loves you so much and this would break their heart so bad but put it back in tho" 

Do intimacy whenever you want

It’s time to de-stigmatize the idea that women who have a lot of sex are “sluts” and women who don’t have sex are “prudes”. Both are equally harmful. No person should be judged on how sexually active they are. Your body count is your body count and you should be able to tell whoever you want or share it with absolutely no one. Let’s start leaving shame and guilt and stigmas aside for sexual conversations.

It is also time to end the hypothesis that says, women’s vagina stretches and they lose value. The value of a woman who has slept with 20 men will be considered very low and that she can’t keep her legs closed but, a man who has sleep with 50 girls will be celebrated that he knows how to get women and play his game good. Men want women with a body count of 5 while they have been up and down with a body count of 65. In small detail : they believe a vagina will stretch and the lady’s perfection during sex will be degraded or downgraded. Men say women have lost value because their private part is open and their job is to get hard, put it in anywhere and satisfy themselves and want to marry a virgin. 

Always a slut for women’s rights 

Truly speaking, a woman can do whatever she wants, not that I am influencing sleeping with anyone but if you want to, who should stop you ? A man who asks for your body count doesn’t want to stay, if he stays he might just increase it for your next guy. If women have to respect themselves, men should do the same. How do you come and expect a body count of 3 when yours is 46 ? That is just some disgusting mess which will not be tolerated. 

The reason why I say body count is not essential is, you may still ask a woman how much her body count is, and she may still lie that it’s 6 and in actuality it’s 70. How will you know it’s 70 not 6 ? You’re just going to take her word for it and trust that it’s six. A lot of men are being made fools because of asking foolish questions, they date women with body counts of 59 when they lied and told them it’s 7. When you’re inside you feel no difference and it’s still the good and great sex you wanted and you can’t even tell how many penis’ have been in there because it’s useless. 

No man is obligated to my body count

A man asking for your body count does not respect you do not let him in, or you could lie, it’s your choice. Body count and its hypothetical conclusions should be considered a folklore. If a woman tells you her body count is 3 when it’s 16 and you sleep with her and don’t feel the 3 or the 16 , the narrative should just die it’s not doing any of you men justice. 

 

This is just my opinion, this is how I see things and fight me if you want but body count does not matter!