YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH (AND THAT’S OKAY)

Don’t question yourself 

I know someone is gonna be like “WHAT??! I AM NOT ENOUGH??” Because it’s not everyday you wake up and think you are not enough we all want to hear what we want to hear not what you need to hear because being told “YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH AND THATS OKAY” really hits home and it’s not something we hear much often but here I am again, telling you what you need to hear not what you want to hear. The truth is we can’t find satisfaction inside ourselves because we are the problem. We struggle with feelings of inadequacy because we are inadequate. Alone, we are not good enough, smart enough, or beautiful enough. We’re not enough, period!. And that’s okay. 

Lately I’ve been learning that you can try your very best and things still might not workout and it’s not because you did not do enough but maybe it’s just because they weren't suppose to workout but mostly because you are just not enough for that specific thing and that’s okay. Soo let’s not fool each other with the whole “you are enough” not everyone is enough and there is no harm in that. What feels true to us in the moment may not be true, good, or trustworthy at all. While it’s true that we have experiences and trauma that shape us, these things don’t equate to moral truths. They just happened. And maybe they were significant, and maybe they taught us something. But in order to know whether these lessons we learned are truths worth building our lives on, we have to compare them to the standard of truth.

Understanding yourself and surroundings

A lot of people don’t want to talk about this and I understand why but I think it’s high time we talk about this as a society as we are able to talk about thing’s that people don’t barely get down to. There is freedom in realizing that neither we nor anyone else has authority to determine truth and morality. “My truth” and society’s “truth” are ever changing, arbitrary, and exhausting to keep up with.

It’s not about feeling shame or thinking someone will get hurt or better yet feel ashamed because you had the courage to tell them the truth. When we miss this truth, we stay stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to measure up to impossible standards while simultaneously convincing ourselves that we’re good enough the way we are. The consequences are always dire.

I usually find people especially close to each other telling each other that “NO YOU ARE ENOUGH, HE/SHE OR WHOMEVER COULDN’T NOTICE IT” the fact is some people are just not enough, let’s stop trying to validate other people views. 

Do you have to be perfect?

(YOU ARE PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE) You’re perfect the way you are” leads us into accepting parts of ourselves that we should be rejecting, making excuses for ourselves when we should be repenting, and believing things about ourselves that hold no lasting value. The toxic culture of self-love is filled with empty platitudes that are handed out not because they’re true but because they’re profitable and clickable. It makes us feel good to imagine that we’re perfect and enough. But, as we’ve established, we’re neither one. And that’s okay. If you can accept that you are not Perfect then What’s stopping you from accepting the fact that you are not good enough and that’s okay.

Not being enough doesn’t mean you are somehow missing something, but mind you people see thing’s differently. It’s honestly okay not being enough. You are a KING/QUEEN, just because you aren’t enough for that specific thing doesn’t mean you loose the valuable of being you. This is the same as getting a job, getting into that university you’ve always wanted, many of us got rejected  because we aren’t enough for it and they are other people who meet the requirements/criteria other than you. 

Rejection doesn’t hold you back

Mind you, rejection doesn't mean you are not enough who am I kidding it does mean you are not enough. Sometimes you need to experience worst scenario in order for you to grow and become the person you are right now. I mean how many of you guy’s have shot their shot and still got rejected? But that didn’t stop you, yes you did thought maybe I’m just not enough wait do guy’s even think of this? Help me out with this one, and yes let me not lie to you, you weren’t enough and that was okay that’s why you had the gut to go and shoot your shot to the next person. I mean did you even die after being rejected? That’s just how life goes.

Whatever your circumstance or struggle, know that you can’t make that ache of emptiness go away on your own. No amount of self-care or self-love will get you out of your misery. Even at your most rejuvenated and most lovable, you will still find yourself waking up in the early hours of the morning haunted by the question of what’s missing. Am I enough? Am I not enough?

Are you the problem??

One would think I’m being toxic cause I’m hurting someone’s feeling’s, if it hurt’s let it hurt cause baby at some point we are all not enough for something, might be in friendship, relationship, family, society, education or whatsoever we all lack something and that’s okay. It shouldn’t make you feel less human, you shouldn’t downgrade yourself cause of it.  Maybe it’s because We’re not enough to know which feelings are valid and which ones are going to lead us in the wrong direction. The first step to getting out of whatever unhealthy cycle you’re currently in is realizing just how not enough you are. That means letting go of the responsibility to be your own source of fulfillment-a responsibility that was never yours in the first place.

You cannot be everything to everyone and we already know that soo why are you mad when someone tell you “you are not enough” cause that’s basically the same thing besides going through the corners . You cannot be nice and kind all the time, you cannot be spot on and right always. There is nothing constant about us as humans and that's okay.

It's okay if someone finds you irritating, it's okay if you are not cool enough for the party, it's okay if you don't get the joke and it's okay if you have a different sense of humor. Not everyone can see you through the same lens. You might be the universe in someone's eyes and a tiny little star dust to another one. You can’t meet all the requirements, that can never happen. Soo you cant fully be enough and that’s okay.