UNDERSTANDING YOUR SEXUALITY (LGBTQIA+)

What’s your sexuality?

 Since It’s Pride month, well I wouldn’t miss this for the world. In most places pride month also have pride day which is the 28 of June.. On June 28, the International LGBTQ+ Pride Day is celebrated. During the Pride, different marches and collective events are organised to make the fight for equality and dignity of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender and any other sexuality that make people visible.

Understand your sexuality 

Sexuality covers a broad spectrum - it’s not necessarily as simple as being “gay” or “straight”. Your sexuality is also deeply personal and there are different types of sexuality, and it can take time to figure out what fits right with you. If someone is giving you a hard time about your sexuality, find out what to do and who you can talk to.

Sex and gender are important aspects of a person’s identity; however, they do not tell us about a person’s sexual orientation or sexuality. Sexuality refers to the way people experience and express sexual feelings. It is important to remember that there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ sexuality; it is simply about how you personally identify and experience attraction. Sexual attraction is part of human sexuality and sexual orientation refers to enduring patterns of sexual attraction and is typically divided into different categories:

LGBTQA+

We have Lesbian’s, Gay’s, Bisexual’s, Transgender, Pansexual, Polysexual, Asexual, Queer, Some used to think they bisexual but figured out they gay and it’s not a matter of having a phase or whatsoever it’s a matter of understanding and accepting who you are. 

Everyone’s sexuality is different, and it’s not necessarily as simple as being ‘gay’ or ‘straight’. Some people are attracted to only one sex, and others are attracted to a diversity of people regardless of sex or gender, with a lot of different preferences in-between. Some people find it soo hard to know or to understand who they are or better yet what’s attractive to them. Your sexuality, or sexual orientation, is basically a way to describe the feelings you have for someone you fancy or are attracted to. Sexuality is a natural and healthy part of who we are. Each of us feels differently about our sexuality, and we may express it in different ways. We all find different people attractive, and this applies to your children and young people too.

When you have that first moment of questioning your sexuality, you may wonder what it means and what you should do about it.

Love is love

First up, you don’t have to do anything straight away. It’s really a good thing of taking time to understand who you are before getting into something or making a decision. Take whatever time you need to work out what these feelings mean for you, your identity and your future. There’s no time limit you can be whoever you want to be the sky is the limit as well so hit pause and give yourself a break. You gon need it.

Your sexuality can be confusing at time’s, Don’t worry if you aren't sure about your sexuality. Being young is a time for figuring out what works for you. Exploring and managing strong feelings is often part of the experience. Whatever is going on, questioning and exploring your sexual identity can be confusing and scary. Most of us worry about how people will react or what it means for your future. But being open about is overwhelming and being able to face it in front of people mean’s you are tough and that’s all that matter’s.

Don’t be ashamed of your sexuality 

It really took me time to understand if it was just a phase or whatsoever but it wasn’t I mean YES I LIKE GIRLS AND MORE THAN I LIKE MAN but don’t tell my boyfriend 🤭. Hopefully, a period of acceptance will follow these feelings of stress and grief.

Having any particular sexual orientation does not mean you have a mental health problem. But the experiences you have because of your sexuality can impact your mental health. Sometimes, people are bullied, treated differently or badly because of their sexuality. You might be made to feel different from those around you, or might have friends or family who don’t understand or support your sexuality.

Society may treat you differently, not understand your sexuality, or not accept it. There may be places where you don’t feel safe or comfortable. These are all experiences or feelings that can leave you feeling upset, worried or isolated. But if being who you are make people mad then make them more mad!