CAN YOUR PARTNER (BOYFRIEND) RAPE YOU?

What is Marital rape?

Partner rape better known as “Marital rape” this has to be one rape that people barely even talk about. In most cases it's always the male gender being accused of rape or being accused of sexual harassment and other issues regarding sexual activities but now that people are used to the name “Rape “ referring to both genders they've gathered that rape can also be done by women or the female gender and they are doing it, men don’t reach out because of what we call satisfaction and the same reason which is the word “Girlfriend or partnership” But today I’m gon focus more on rape that’s done by boy’s especially to their partners, in other words it’s “partner rape.”.

Sexual assault within a relationship is not uncommon.  Although statistics vary, one national study from 1997 found that 34% of women were victims of some type of sexual coercion (including rape and other acts) by a husband or intimate partner in their lifetime. Another study from 2010 found that 9.4% of women have been raped by an intimate partner in their lifetime, and an estimated 16.9% of women and 8.0% of men have experienced sexual violence other than rape by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime.

Other studies reveal that women had unwanted sex with a current spouse or partner because they thought it was their “duty” it’s even absurd that 1man out of 10 men think it’s a woman’s duty to say yes whenever they want sex.

Marriage and relationship is not an excuse 

Does “no” really mean “no” in a relationship?

Growing up I’ve seen that a lot of girls would specify sex as a need because of their sexual partners, yes a girl can need nor want sex depending on her sexual needs as a person even a boy can as well have the same needs, but what happens when your boyfriend wants sex and you dont? what happened when your girlfriend wants sex and you don’t?

This is the same as a menu, you and your partner might differ on the things that you order and that doesn’t mean if your partner want fries you should also want fries and this was what brought me onto this question “can your partner rape you” and my answer is YES. Mostly this occurs on girls and girls don’t usually report such cases because of the word “boyfriend” , if he was your boyfriend why would he do it when you telling him to stop, why would he mistreat you or abuse you sexually? Females have this tendency of saying the more a girl say NO that means she is saying yes and in my own opinion No doesn’t mean convince me , its highly time a lot of us get that mentality off our heads, NO MEANS NO AND YES MEANS YES .

Whose to blame?

Remember it’s not your fault. If you find that you are or have been a victim of partner rape, remember that this is absolutely not your fault . You are not responsible for what your partner has done or is doing to you. Whether you’re still in the relationship or not, it is important that you get support for your own mental and emotional wellbeing. In situations of abuse, your partner might try to keep you away from people, especially your family and friends.

Remember that no matter who does this to you, even if he is your boyfriend nor your girlfriend, No means NO. I want to encourage people who have gone through this or are going through this to speak regardless of who it is and to stick up for themselves and what they believe is right, Confide in family and friends if necessary or whomever might be close to you. So keep in touch with people who care about you.❤️

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